How To: Get Over Your Ex and/or Someone You Love
Ok so, the fact that my ex is trying to get back with me brings up a lot of mixed feelings. SO I want to share my personal advice on how to get over your ex or someone that you really like and just can't have.
We all have that one person that it's impossible to loose feelings for. No matter how far they move on it's like you'll always have a special place for them in your heart. It's almost impossible to get over a person like that, a person that you truly feel is perfect yet horrible for you. It's like they're your soul mate even if they have a girlfriend or boyfriend at the time, it doesn't matter to you because you still want them.
That's how it is with my ex, I've tried to get completely over him but it's not like he doesn't cross my mind because he does. Even when I'm with someone else it's like he's sitting in the back of my mind just chilling lol. Even though I think about him a lot and am madly in love with him I know he's no good for me. And it's like should I act on how I feel or just keep those feelings bottled up until I someone else? And the answer is NO NO I SHOULDN'T YOU SHOULDN'T EITHER.
So here's how to get over that shitty yet special person. (Steps are not in order)
STEP UNO: is uno 1? I think it is. ANYWAYS. STEP 1 IS TO COMPLETELY CUT THAT PERSON OUT YOUR LIFE. Delete their number out of your phone, delete all the pictures you've taken with them, and delete any recent phone calls and/or text you've made to them. Block them on every social network you have them on and I MEAN EVERY SOCIAL NETWORK. You're going to be very hesitant at first, which is completely understandable. So I advice you do this while you're angry to it's easier honestly. and also stop speaking to them duh. Don't wave hi, don't even acknowledge them when you see them unless they acknowledge you first and always make the convos quick, don't talk about anything personal.
STEP 2: DO NOT fall out of routine. It's normal to put your life on pause once you break up with someone or just feeling really hurt by someone you love. But it comes to an extent. You should take up a week at the most to eat non-stop and make netflix and alcohol your best friend but after that GET YOUR ASS UP and continue on with your life. Because if you do that shit any longer and not get back to your normal routine, that rut WILL become your routine. Take a bubble bath, go out with friends, TREAT YOURSELF. You deserve it sweet heart. So just basically use every bone of your body and drag your ass out of bed and off the couch and dress up nice and go out. Wear lipstick and a hot dress with super high heels so you can feel good about yourself because you look fucking hot. And if you're a dude then wear your freshest pair of sneaks/shoes and put on your best smelling cologne and go outttttt. You don't even have to go anywhere special but just get the hell up out of there. Go to the gym or the club or anywhere just not home.
STEP 3: DISTRACT YOURSELF. You should of course acknowledge the way you feel because if you don't your feelings will hit you when you least expect it but don't think about him/her too much. Every time they pop up in your head automatically think about some thing else. Listen to some hype ass music or watch a horror or comedy anything that doesn't include a cheesy ass love story. If someone brings that person up just tell them to mind their business or that you don't want to talk about them. If you spend all day talking about them even if it's a bad way, you're still talking about them and thinking about them which isn't helping.
STEP 4: TAKE YOUR ANGER AND SADNESS OUT! It's OKAY to be angry and sad. It's ok to cry about it. Your emotions are what make you human, don't feel ashamed. In order to take your anger out cut up some pillows or something, do things that won't hurt you physically. I personally like to punch pillows and cut them up and crap. Cut up everything you have about/from them, light it on fire. Omg lighting things on fire are sooo much fun and feels sooo good specially when you're angry. Just make sure you keep yourself and the people around you safe don't go blowing up your house lol. And when you're sad go ahead and cry yourself to sleep. It's ok to cry and it actually helps because instead of bottling that sadness up you're letting it out. Cry into your pillow and cuddle up with your pet or stuffed animal. Do what you gotta do to let your emotions out.
STEP 5: COMPLIMENT YOURSELF. Try not to feel sorry and pitty for yourself. Even if the relationship did end because of you, don't be so hard on yourself. You're only human, and still growing as a person. Remember that always. Everyone makes mistakes and fucks up in life thats just what happens and what it takes for you to grow. But anyways. Don't ask yourself if you weren't pretty enough or handsome enough or skinny enough or even fat enough or have big enough muscles because you shouldn't let anyone make you feel like shit. You're always good enough for the RIGHT person ALWAYS. So sit in a mirror and tell yourself how pretty you are. Flex your muscles. Tell yourself how worthy you are and how much better you deserve.
STEP 6: CUT OFF ALL CONNECTIONS TO THAT PERSON. STOP talking to their friends and/or family members. Cut anyone that you know through them off. I made the mistake of not doing that and i kept seeing them at every social function I was invited to by one of his friends and trust me you do NOT want that happening. Your friendship with those people will become super awkward and you do not want that.
Welp that's all I got for now. If I think of anything else or remember anything I'll update this but for now dis is itttt. I hope I've helped some of you loves. :)))) <3333333
We all have that one person that it's impossible to loose feelings for. No matter how far they move on it's like you'll always have a special place for them in your heart. It's almost impossible to get over a person like that, a person that you truly feel is perfect yet horrible for you. It's like they're your soul mate even if they have a girlfriend or boyfriend at the time, it doesn't matter to you because you still want them.
That's how it is with my ex, I've tried to get completely over him but it's not like he doesn't cross my mind because he does. Even when I'm with someone else it's like he's sitting in the back of my mind just chilling lol. Even though I think about him a lot and am madly in love with him I know he's no good for me. And it's like should I act on how I feel or just keep those feelings bottled up until I someone else? And the answer is NO NO I SHOULDN'T YOU SHOULDN'T EITHER.
So here's how to get over that shitty yet special person. (Steps are not in order)
STEP UNO: is uno 1? I think it is. ANYWAYS. STEP 1 IS TO COMPLETELY CUT THAT PERSON OUT YOUR LIFE. Delete their number out of your phone, delete all the pictures you've taken with them, and delete any recent phone calls and/or text you've made to them. Block them on every social network you have them on and I MEAN EVERY SOCIAL NETWORK. You're going to be very hesitant at first, which is completely understandable. So I advice you do this while you're angry to it's easier honestly. and also stop speaking to them duh. Don't wave hi, don't even acknowledge them when you see them unless they acknowledge you first and always make the convos quick, don't talk about anything personal.
STEP 2: DO NOT fall out of routine. It's normal to put your life on pause once you break up with someone or just feeling really hurt by someone you love. But it comes to an extent. You should take up a week at the most to eat non-stop and make netflix and alcohol your best friend but after that GET YOUR ASS UP and continue on with your life. Because if you do that shit any longer and not get back to your normal routine, that rut WILL become your routine. Take a bubble bath, go out with friends, TREAT YOURSELF. You deserve it sweet heart. So just basically use every bone of your body and drag your ass out of bed and off the couch and dress up nice and go out. Wear lipstick and a hot dress with super high heels so you can feel good about yourself because you look fucking hot. And if you're a dude then wear your freshest pair of sneaks/shoes and put on your best smelling cologne and go outttttt. You don't even have to go anywhere special but just get the hell up out of there. Go to the gym or the club or anywhere just not home.
STEP 3: DISTRACT YOURSELF. You should of course acknowledge the way you feel because if you don't your feelings will hit you when you least expect it but don't think about him/her too much. Every time they pop up in your head automatically think about some thing else. Listen to some hype ass music or watch a horror or comedy anything that doesn't include a cheesy ass love story. If someone brings that person up just tell them to mind their business or that you don't want to talk about them. If you spend all day talking about them even if it's a bad way, you're still talking about them and thinking about them which isn't helping.
STEP 4: TAKE YOUR ANGER AND SADNESS OUT! It's OKAY to be angry and sad. It's ok to cry about it. Your emotions are what make you human, don't feel ashamed. In order to take your anger out cut up some pillows or something, do things that won't hurt you physically. I personally like to punch pillows and cut them up and crap. Cut up everything you have about/from them, light it on fire. Omg lighting things on fire are sooo much fun and feels sooo good specially when you're angry. Just make sure you keep yourself and the people around you safe don't go blowing up your house lol. And when you're sad go ahead and cry yourself to sleep. It's ok to cry and it actually helps because instead of bottling that sadness up you're letting it out. Cry into your pillow and cuddle up with your pet or stuffed animal. Do what you gotta do to let your emotions out.
STEP 5: COMPLIMENT YOURSELF. Try not to feel sorry and pitty for yourself. Even if the relationship did end because of you, don't be so hard on yourself. You're only human, and still growing as a person. Remember that always. Everyone makes mistakes and fucks up in life thats just what happens and what it takes for you to grow. But anyways. Don't ask yourself if you weren't pretty enough or handsome enough or skinny enough or even fat enough or have big enough muscles because you shouldn't let anyone make you feel like shit. You're always good enough for the RIGHT person ALWAYS. So sit in a mirror and tell yourself how pretty you are. Flex your muscles. Tell yourself how worthy you are and how much better you deserve.
STEP 6: CUT OFF ALL CONNECTIONS TO THAT PERSON. STOP talking to their friends and/or family members. Cut anyone that you know through them off. I made the mistake of not doing that and i kept seeing them at every social function I was invited to by one of his friends and trust me you do NOT want that happening. Your friendship with those people will become super awkward and you do not want that.
Welp that's all I got for now. If I think of anything else or remember anything I'll update this but for now dis is itttt. I hope I've helped some of you loves. :)))) <3333333
This has helped me so much miss. so thank yu very much this is some great advice!
ReplyDelete